A Oaxaca Wedding - Part 3

The Reception in Teotitlan del Valle, Oaxaca

Even if one enjoys the adventure of public transportation, getting to Teotitlan del Valle, the main wool weaving village in Oaxaca, is a somewhat daunting task. This time was no exception. We walked from our hotel to the spot adjacent to the Abastos market where our memory told us we could catch a brown and yellow bus that would take us to the center of Teotitlan. After about 45 minutes of unsuccessful searching through the loud dusty swirl of bus, taxi, combi, motorcycle, bicycle, and pedestrian chaos for a glimpse of that bus, we decided to ask for assistance from an arm waving, whistle shrieking man directing combi (taxi) traffic. He pointed us back to the street where we had been. “No taxis to Teotitlan on this a market day in Tlacolula.” More anxious waiting,  but still no Teotitlan bus. 

Having lost hope of catching a bus in time for the celebration and debating what our options might be, we spied a bus marked for Mitla, beyond Teotitlan, but, if memory served, on the same highway. Of course, in the time it took us to recognize the name and process the location, the bus flew by. Dodging people, poles, potholes, and traffic, we sprinted down the street in hopes of catching up. Finally the bus slowed to pick up some passengers and we were able to jump aboard. The driver, on a tight schedule, had little time to deal with our wheezing and feeble Spanish. We hoped that his hand signals indicated that he would drop us at the crossroads a fair but walkable distance outside of Teotitlan. Whew! Closer, at least?

To our relief, as we approached the crossroads, the bus slowed and we and a few other passengers were able to leap off. Squinting though brilliant sun and a swirl of dust as the bus roared off, we spotted a taxi waiting on the other side of the highway. Chiripa! The locals, always quicker and more alert, set off at a torrid pace across the new, elevated walkway that increases the chance of pedestrian survival. Scuttling after them as best we could, we clearly lost the race to the taxi, but our fellow travelers kindly held the taxi for us. With them we rode in sardine luxury to street where had visited the Chavez family on previous visits. Chiripa!

The new Chavez house was to be the site of the reception. We were told to just keep walking past their former home/workshop. We crossed a dry creek and headed into the countryside. The looming table-filled tent was our first clue that we had found it. But in typical U.S. style, we were quite early, which gave us time to observe the party preparations. The day was warm and bright, yet pleasant in the shade, and the atmosphere subdued. The new house, not fully finished was open and airy. As the previous night’s party in Oaxaca had continued through the entire night, everyone was operating on little or no sleep. Eric and Elsa were nowhere to be seen. Federico and Lola, Eric’s parents were busy directing various tasks. Janet and Omar, Eric’s siblings were working on signs to direct guests to the party. Several men of the family were sitting around a table talking. They motioned us to join them. Most of the conversation was in Zapotec with a bit of Spanish tossed in probably for our benefit. We understood nothing, but nodded and smiled anyway. We were offered the the refreshment of the day, Coronitas ( 7 oz cervezas). It was all very pleasant and low key, but as it was man talk, I drifted off to the kitchen to see what was happening there.

The food prep area was the most fascinating. The women of the family were hard at work. Eggs were being cracked and mixed in a large washtub. In the end who knows how many dozens of eggs there were. 

A caldron of chicken stock, nearly 6 feet in diameter was simmering over a fire and being stirred by two women using huge bamboo poles. A tub of chicken pieces was ready to add. When fully assembled this soup would be the first course of the celebration dinner, to be served by the many women preparing the food.

I pitched in with the dish washing. How many would attend? 200(!!!!!) for a sit-down dinner. This would be a grand celebration! The plates and bowls were all being washed in tubs behind the house. They are part of the community cache of supplies that are rented for fiestas. My poor Spanish didn’t get me far with the other helpers. But, they didn’t refuse my help although they were quite concerned that I was not wearing an apron. They all wore aprons over their traditional pleated skirts.

At some point Eric and Elsa arrived with their dog. They had some lunch and talked with family members, then left again apparently they needed a nap.

After the dishes were washed, I checked in on the soup and the tortilla-making. Two wood fired comals were in use and each giant tortilla was hand made. What a lot of tortillas, many for each expected guest! 

Then I found another task: rolling the silverware in a napkin. This put me in the room with the Virgin of Guadalupe altar where the gifts and special guests were received. 

As we worked I heard a commotion outside. The band had assembled at the gate and was walking up the drive playing their instruments. Once in the tent they formed a line along the side. The men of the Chavez family moved down the line each one greeting every band member with a traditional handshake and a slight bow. Then the family presented the band with gifts of beer, mescal, and soda. The band took their places at one end of the tent.

Some guests began to trickle in, each greeted respectfully with the handshake and bow.  Many brought a case of Coronitas, some a bottle of mezcal. Then there was a bit of commotion as a somewhat larger group gathered at the gate. Omar told us that the Village President, members of the city council, and spouses had arrived. They solemnly walked to the house in a group. Again the men of the Chavez family greeted each of the dignitaries who then were ushered into the room with the altar. The dignitaries lined one side and the bride’s  and groom’s families on the opposite side. A formal ceremony of what appeared to be greeting and thank you for honoring the event followed. Members of the families spoke to the dignitaries and dignitaries spoke to members of the families. These were serious sounding speeches, all in Zapotec made by an individual on one side of the room to the group on the other side. As each person spoke those on the other side of the room gave short responses of agreement or respect almost like a call and response in a church. 

From my corner where I was working on the silverware, I got to look at the back of the beautiful dresses the guests wore.

Eric and Elsa returned and soon the guests began to arrive in earnest and the tables under the tent filled. Warm and respectful greetings were exchanged each time a person a new person arrived. 

We took our seats as well just in time to be served a large bowl of the chicken and egg soup accompanied by tortillas and hot sauce. We consumed the soup with great relish thinking that this was the meal. Shortly after the soup bowls were taken away, a main course of grilled chicken, corn and mixed vegetables arrived. We don’t know if it was prepared on site or brought in.  It simply appeared. As we were quite full from the delicious soup, we asked to share the main course. 

Large stacks of tortillas arrived at every table. Apparently, many other guests also were quite full after the soup course, as they skillfully wrapped leftovers in several layers of the large tortillas and packed them into the plastic bags provided by the servers.

The band played throughout the meal and then took a break and were served the wedding meal. They too were encouraged to take food home and were given plastic bags for the tortilla-wrapped chicken. Mezcal and cervezas were in good supply!

Dessert was served buffet style and it included a waffle cone with coconut sorbet and a red one that we later learned was cactus fruit. While we ate Federico and other men passed out bunches of moistened and very pleasant smelling leafy branches that would later be used in the dances.

The tables disappeared in a hurry and the band members took their places to begin the dance music. Again, the first dances were for the wedding couple and then their parents. This time the dancers carried the branches. In addition the men carried large bottles of Mezcal in one hand as they danced. This traditional dancing (a jarabe or folk dance) is quite lengthy with the band playing the same refrain over and over. The band director put the band on autopilot and managed to sneak in a good nap.

By this time we realized that the last bus to Oaxaca would be leaving soon and we reluctantly decided to take our leave knowing that the partly would last long into the night. Another couple of gringos decided to leave at the same time and we were able to find a taxi and were able to negotiate a ride to Oaxaca for all of us.

A fun day, we hope we did not commit too many cultural faux pas; an experience we will not soon forget. Thank you Eric and Elsa; Lola and Fe for making us feel welcome at such a personal time. -KL

A Oaxaca Wedding - Part 2

The Civil Ceremony and Reception

Following the wedding at the cathedral we walked to the Ethnobotanical Garden for the civil ceremony preceding the reception. The invitation specified an address that was not the normal entrance to the gardens. 

We checked it out the day before and found that it was a new doorway through the wall to the gardens. In the small enclosed courtyard a civil servant (I'll assume he is a judge or something like that) stood before a table with a lovely floral arrangement and many manila folders with papers. The scene was lit by a portable overhead light. The stone walls with climbing cactus were washed with light as well. The crowd waited for all the players to arrive.

The extended message from the judge was somber. We think it spelled out the duties and responsibilities of the newly married couple. No one was cracking a smile. This is serious business. Then the signing began. Each in the wedding party, the newlyweds, their parents and their sponsors had many duplicate pages to sign. Eric and Elsa had to add their fingerprints. 

When the signing was done the group exited through another door presenting the ticket that was included in the invitation in order to pass from the courtyard room through to the garden reception. As we walked along the path we were greeted by small candlelit paper balloons floating into the cloudless Prussian blue sky. All threat of rain had evaporated and the evening was glorious.

The gardens filled with the plants of Mexico added to the enchanted feel of the event. A light show projected on one wall, the band (from Teotitlan del Valle) created another wall and in between were dozens of tables ready for the crowds.

Each table came equipped with a bottle of mezcal etched with the wedding logo. (Elsa works in marketing at Studio Xaquixe, the glass factory where they were made.) Our table's bottle came home with me. Guests at our table included young people from Teotitlan, who did not like mezcal and were not interested in drinking alcohol, and a couple from Austin, TX who preferred beer. Que lastima! Pero una chiripa para mi!

The artistic first course of the meal arrived presented by a fleet of bright young servers. It was a shrimp salad with a cactus paddle and a tortilla chip in the middle. Fabulous. By the time the main course arrived I had forgotten that I wanted to photograph the food. 

After one bite I remembered and snapped a shot of the roast pork with squash and corn. The tastes complemented each other and the pork melted in my mouth. By the time the dessert arrived I had forgotten my camera altogether. Unlike the ubiquitous cakes at US weddings, this dessert was more subtle; a creamy coconut meringue eaten with a spoon. Light and just slightly sweet. 

Curiously, the wedding couple sat at a table alone. Of course they didn't stay there long as each is exuberant and was out among the guests in no time. A couple toasts and then the dancing began. 

The Teotitlan band played traditional music and the wedding couple, and then the parents, and then others moved and shuffled to a jarabe. Soon the dance floor was mobbed with revelers and the party seemed like most wedding receptions with the lookers and the performers.

At one point the bride climbed onto a chair to throw her bouquet. A group of men surrounded her to hold her upright and young women danced in streams around her. She teased them several times and finally tossed the bouquet into the hands of her new sister-in-law Janet (see previous post).

Prizes seemed to part of the wedding tradition here. The women in blue dresses circulated among the guests handing out gifts that were printed with the wedding logo. I scored a pair of flip flops. These were quite useful for the young women who had been dancing in 5-inch heels.

At midnight the Teotitlan band retired and a DJ took over.  The music was loud and we old people were flagging.  Time for us to walk back to our hotel, but the party would go on until 6 am!!!!  -KL

Part 3. The Reception in Teotitlan del Valle.
(To be continued.)